Most employers that I worked for benefited from me successfully starting up and running their companies, divisions, and projects within their organization. In return for my efforts, these employers have gone on to be much more successful, and I simply just continued to earn my good steady salary and a few employee-of-the-month awards. To many people, that probably doesn’t seem so bad. And I did not have an issue an employee per se because it afforded me some of the luxuries I enjoy still enjoy in life, but my aim is to be free to earn a living without feeling like I am being taken advantage of or limited.
Up until last year March, I was in a very comfortable paying position with a nice little office. Another business owner, who heard of my talents, offered to pay me a higher salary, and give me the better title and lots freedom if I came to work for him instead. I found the offer too good to be true, but I took the chance and left the “very comfortable paying position with a nice little office” because it didn’t allow me to grow professionally, nor financially. I was miserable and had anxiety working there. I was bound to leave either way because I definitely didn’t feel the
To my surprise, I got to witness a real-life jaw-dropping moment when I told one of the owners that I quit. The look on his face was priceless and funny! He was at a complete loss for words because he knew damn good and well how much I contributed to their success, and that they were stifling my growth, and everyone else. No one was going to know how to do my job after I left because of how they operated. Although I could have gotten an increase in pay, my decision was final. They knew that I knew better; and we left it at that – on good terms.
Shortly after taking on the new position, I was forced to make another very hasty decision. The owner of this new company seemed to desperately need me in order to keep his business afloat. One minute I was receiving praise for how talented I was, and the next minute I was being insulted for not sharing my contacts and making him money fast enough. Mind you, I only worked there two weeks and a day (LOL). The red flags were there, but I guess I tried to ignore them. When he screamed out to the people on the sales floor, “If you need leads, ask Nikia” I knew I was in trouble. It was only day one and he hadn’t even shown me to my office and desk yet.
Every morning the owner would remind me that if I didn’t generate revenue for the company, he couldn’t afford to pay the salary he promised me. Not to mention, the business plan changed daily. He even wanted to piggyback off of some of my business ideas that were unrelated. It didn’t take too much longer after that for me to figure out that I didn’t need him to do bad. I figured I could do better on my own with less stress! I already had my business set up so if I put the same energy into myself that I would have to put in to help make him rich, I could do it for myself.
After two weeks of the shenanigans with the owner that wanted me to start his company up, I had enough. One morning during one of his raging rants, I quietly packed up and wished him luck! I certainly did not need that type of energy in my life. As he trailed behind me begging me to stay, he couldn’t help himself from insulting me further, saying that I needed a job because I was a single mom. I looked him directly in the eyes and told him, “I would rather struggle by myself than to work for a person like you. And you better not follow me out this door!” And I never turned back.
Working for myself this time around isn’t so bad. It gives me the freedom I wanted, and I’m bringing in income too. I had time to spend doing senior year activities with my daughter, such as touring Universities, helping her get a custom-made dress for senior prom, and planning and celebrating her prom day sendoff and graduation here in Florida. I also got to attend her graduation party in Georgia with her extended family, her college orientation, and her move-in at her college. Some of these events I could have done with a job, but not all. I would have had to request time off or tell her no. I could only imagine what her prom dress would have looked like if I didn’t supervise the process.😳
In addition to all the really awesome experiences I had this past year as an entrepreneur, I would be lying if I didn’t mention some really challenging times too. It has always been in my plan to pursue my dreams once my daughter got to college. However, I wasn’t quite prepared to stop my steady and predictable flow of income that soon. I anticipated that there would unforeseen circumstances to come, which is why my initial plan was to continue to work and save money until I sent my daughter off to college. Almost like deciding to start a family, I don’t know if you could ever be prepared enough and I didn’t really give myself any options other than to go for it. Plus a job can also fire me at any time, though I can proudly say I have never been fired.
Since this wasn’t my first run at self-employment and I still wasn’t where I want to be in life, I started to believe what I was doing was “cutting my nose to spite my face”. In other words, was I sabotaging myself by not thinking this all the way through? Do I not want to really make it? Am I crazy? Why did I quit when I was comfortable? Why do I keep taking myself to new heights in my career, but then make abrupt decisions that make me start from scratch?
I can sit here and think of a lot of things that I did wrong, and about what people have to say about it. However, today, where I am, my mantra is that the present is only temporary. I know where I am going in the future so I am not looking back. I realized that I underestimating myself when I questioned my intuition. What I know now is that I am not cutting off my nose to spite my face. Instead, I’m a natural-born problem solver and an individual who enjoys taking a risk for greater gains. I don’t run from problems or do what is safe because that is what the averages are telling me I should do; I face problems head-on so I can learn from it, and get to my goal faster. Wow, I am exactly who I have been aspiring to be all this time – an entrepreneur and CEO!
a person who organizes and operates a business or businesses, taking on greater than normal financial risks in order to do so.Entrepreneur Definition
I was not born with a silver spoon in my mouth; I have to work harder than the people who came into the world with a more convenient setup to succeed. The way God set me up though, I have a strong enough mindset to learn to do whatever I aspire to be. I have excelled in school, in my career, and in my personal endeavors. There have been moments where I fell victim to pitfalls in life but I was born a player. And I not only play to win,
In the midst all the obstacles I still face, I find that focusing on the positive outcome is extremely rewarding. Had I played it safe and went against my intuition to quit those jobs I wasn’t financially prepared to quit and listening to the people that said I need a job, I would not have come to this realization that I am capable of earning a more than the average income of a person with a degree, without an employer. I am doing it right now, and it hasn’t even been a year yet! No employer can completely stop my flow of income now that I have my own ways of making money. And guess what, I am still open to being employed with the right offer since I have set my businesses up to allow for multiple sources of income to flow in.
5 Reasons I am Grateful This Week:
- I am grateful for the living I earned this past year. I have faced some tough obstacles for sure and I am still working to increase my wealth. But let’s be clear! Whether or not I have a job, the money I earned was generated from my God-given talents, my work ethic and the relentless efforts I put in every day to succeed. No one gave me any handouts, nor did I ask anyone for anything. God was my only provider!
- I am so grateful that God made me strong. It’s a blessing to make going through challenges look easy to conquer. I’m okay with having had to stand alone and also be the bigger person. I was built for this.
- I am so grateful for my understanding daughter. We have been running on a tighter budget, and now she has to resort to asking other family members that aren’t as responsive as mommy. Now she appreciates all the times she asked for anything and didn’t have to blink an eye before she got it. We will be back there once again, but mommy is waiting for the seeds she is planting to bear much more fruit than it did before.
- I am grateful for all the really good friends and family that silently cheer me on. Your phone calls, encouraging messages, referrals and genuine support really keep me going. If you don’t know I appreciate you now, you will soon find out!
- Lastly, I am grateful for my ability to trust my intuition. I get vibes, you know? Sometimes I don’t even understand it, but my purpose is greater than just being an entrepreneur or leader. It is my gifts from God will get me to where I need to be to fulfill that purpose. Until then, I will keep chipping away. By that, I mean remaining in constant optimization mode so I can keep accomplishing one goal at a time. My time is better served focusing on making better choices for myself, and showing what I am capable. I choose to lead by example, rather than using force, criticism, or judgment to get people to change or see my point of view. I got too much to work on for myself, so I can finally be in a position to do what I was put here to do on this earth. My intuition tells me I am on the right track and I should not give up! 😉
That is why I tell you not to worry about everyday life—whether you have enough food and drink, or enough clothes to wear. Isn’t life more than food, and your body more than clothing? Look at the birds. They don’t plant or harvest or store food in barns, for your heavenly Father feeds them. And aren’t you far more valuable to him than they are? Can all your worries add a single moment to your life? “And why worry about your clothing? Look at the lilies of the field and how they grow. They don’t work or make their clothing, yet Solomon in all his glory was not dressed as beautifully as they are. And if God cares so wonderfully for wildflowers that are here today and thrown into the fire tomorrow, he will certainly care for you. Why do you have so little faith? “So don’t worry about these things, saying, ‘What will we eat? What will we drink? What will we wear?’ These things dominate the thoughts of unbelievers, but your heavenly Father already knows all your needs. Seek the Kingdom of God above all else, and live righteously, and he will give you everything you need. “So don’t worry about tomorrow, for tomorrow will bring its own worries. Today’s trouble is enough for today.Matthew 6:25-34 NLT